Guiding Teens Through Life's Transitions: 4 Key Ways to Support Your Adolescent

Calvary D. Sampson, LPC

8/26/20222 min read

woman in red hat and blue denim jeans sitting on tree trunk beside river during daytime
woman in red hat and blue denim jeans sitting on tree trunk beside river during daytime

Navigating the turbulent waters of adolescence can be challenging, both for teenagers and the adults who care for them. As a Teen and Millennial therapist, I have the privilege of creating safe spaces to help teens discover answers to complex questions like, "Who am I?" and "Where do I fit in?" These questions often coincide with emotional, physical, and cognitive transitions during the teenage years.

If you're seeking actionable tips to support your teenager on their journey, here are four valuable ways you, as a parent, caregiver, educator, or mentor, can provide guidance:

Identify Mental Health and Wellness Services:

  • Seek out psychology departments and counseling centers in your area.

  • Sometimes, support means connecting your teen with resources that can nurture their emotional and mental well-being. Look for support groups where they can connect with peers experiencing similar challenges. Knowing they're not alone can be a profound relief for your teen.

a person taking a picture of themselves in a mirror
a person taking a picture of themselves in a mirror

Help Teens Discover Their Strengths and Affirm Them:

  • Take notice of your teen's incredible qualities and be sure to express your observations to them. During this transformative phase, teens may find it easier to focus on their perceived flaws or compare themselves to their peers.

  • In a world where technology can make them feel constantly scrutinized, remind them that they don't have to be perfect to be loved. Your affirmations can have a significant impact on boosting their confidence.

Be Supportive of Independence and Individuality:

  • Adolescence is the stage where identity development takes center stage. Teens crave more independence and room to explore their interests.

  • With your support, they can comfortably embark on the journey of self-discovery without the pressure of living up to specific expectations. Continually reinforce the importance of trusting themselves and following their unique path.


Prioritize College Mental Health:

  • If your teen is approaching their junior or senior year in high school, discussions about college preparation may be underway. Remember that both academic and emotional well-being are essential for a student's success.

  • When exploring different campuses and applying for colleges, inquire about the availability of counseling centers on campus. You can also reach out to your Primary Care Physician for therapist referrals or use therapist directories available online.

Lastly, I want to remind you to give yourself grace. You've imparted invaluable wisdom to your teen throughout their childhood. Now, it's time to trust in the support and teachings you've provided. Embrace this transition with confidence. As a parent or caregiver, you may have your own emotions to contend with, and that's perfectly okay. Remember, you've got this!